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If we don’t stay open to making contact with our child within, we run the risk of even worse pain - the pain of living an unfulfilled life.

Fraser Trevor

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Title: If we don’t stay open to making contact with our child within, we run the risk of even worse pain - the pain of living an unfulfilled life.
Author: Fraser Trevor
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If we don’t stay open to making contact with our child within, we run the risk of even worse pain - the pain of living an unfulfilled life...

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 If we don’t stay open to making contact with our child within, we run the risk of even worse pain - the pain of living an unfulfilled life. And the worst pain of all: being on our death beds and realising how we SHOULD have lived. And all the opportunity you missed out on. When we sit and stare back at our lives, will we see a life well lived? Or will we see a life wasted and full of regret? That kind of pain is far worse than the temporary pain of healing our child within. A strange thing happens to the child within when it’s hurt. It actually grows back stronger and with more self worth - for itself and others. What keeps us trapped is not our ability or desire to be accepted. No. What holds us back is the story we tell ourselves about the pain we've experienced in the past. We’d have to be idiots not to see patterns emerge Their are common themes and patterns with how people work out their childhoods now. We experience pain and then make up a story about how it will ALWAYS be like this, or ALL MEN/WOMEN are cheaters, or how if one person rejects us that must mean the WHOLE WORLD has rejected us. Thoughts like this run deep. Not just in  relationships, but in our family. Our model of how to parent and parented were learned at home. How we grew up, the environment we were in and who was there directly affected and moulded how we see the world today. Many of the thoughts and behaviours we have aren't even our own. They are learned patterns that we picked up from others. And so when we have these parental patterns in us, generalise about how the WHOLE world is, and then take ACTION from that belief... guess what happens? We produce a result that is in alignment with our belief. And then we prove the story we are telling ourselves to be true. We prove over and over again that the world is against us, or that all men/women are somehow faulty and can’t be trusted, or that we aren't worthy of trust. So the question is, what story would you LIKE to live? And do you have the guts, balls, strength, inner resolve, determination, patience and faith to actually live that kind of life? Up until today you have been living a certain pattern and thinking that all of life is that way. But what if it were true that that wasn't how LIFE IS... but it’s how YOU ARE? What if that were true? And what if, instead of waiting for life and/or others to change, you took your power back and changed yourself? What if you actually had the courage to stay open and risk being hurt again, not because the world is against you or because you aren't love-able, no, but because you want to live life WIDE open, with no regret having given it your all? What new story do you want to tell yourself? Can you open up and trust again? Can you risk the temporary pain of hurt for the long term bliss of knowing you lived your life loudly and proudly on your terms, sharing as much recovery as you could?